Sometimes it's the thrill of outside sex and other times, they feel unappreciated by their wives.
He was seperated for 2 years and went back only 5 months ago. He doesn't talk to me about how things are at home, he just tells me there's something missing and when I say what, he says the passion is gone. Meanwhile, I can't understand why he's trying to build this relationship with me. I stated that I was cool being single for now and he asked me why I was single, and when I told him that I needed some time to figure out what I wanted and needed he said that he liked that answer. He took me to meet his friends and he said that he was very impressed with me. He text me everyday and comes to see me at least once a week. I initially got into for the casualty of the sex, because we have such a strong physical attraction and chemistry but it appears that he's trying to turn this into a relationship.
How should I tell him I just want something casual and that maybe the texting and calling everyday, not to mention meeting and hanging out with friends may be taking this to a level that I don't want to go to, especially since I kind of like being courted?
You just need to come out and tell it like it is unless your feelings are changing for him and you are confused and dont know what YOU WANT TO DO. Maybe on the inside you are finding that you want a relationship with him and just need to hear some peoples advice on here. What ever you decide- it will be the right choice. But I would just tell him what ya said here if that is what you really want. You should not let him be led on that it could turn into something more if you dont want that.
ride it out and see where it takes you, i donreasons why married men cheatt think he wants a relationship with you, i think you are filling the spots that his wife is not
Better yet why not be a good person and try to figure out how to tell him that what you both are doing is WRONG and that it is ending. And from now on leave other womans men alone. But waite ,,,, people like you are not good people so that wont work.
Hmm...you like the thrill, the danger, the excitement of being the "other woman". It's a turn-on. I think that you should let this man go as he should be committed to one woman and that is his wife.
Just my opinion
You are getting in way to deep, sometimes when people are confused they fall prey to self destruct, it sounds to me like your seeking out instant gratification, and my guess is that this guy with whom you are seeing on and off is to. The issues and problems that this guy is having in his marriage is not your problem, nor should you be the person who he seeks out to find a outlet to satisfy and pacify his so called loveless marriage. You may think that having a casual relationship with this guy is safe, but trust me it's not, in time if you carry on with this twisted relationship you will find out that he is no different then any other guy, its just that he is someone new and different, when the newness runs it's course you will see that maybe you acted on impulse and nothing more?
being the other woman, wow that's a turbulent road. I get it being with a married man is a safe way to be with a guy without the risk of relationship but still feel like your being courted and have the rest of the aspects of a relationship...without the reality.
The only advise is you can find that your current situation is unsustainareasons why married men cheatble. If you want to contine, you can, but its not a easy road and one without any rules or guidlines.
You know there are guys out there that enjoy just courting a girl without the risk of a long term relationship? Consider going online and being honest on what you want. At least then you can get what you want without torpodoeing a failing relationship.
You forget that your the one in control here. Just tell him to back off, your not interested in a relationship and you do not need him 24 hours a day. He should get the picture and give you some space, he does not want to lose his second source of entertainment. Good luck.
Firt off the man is married and you should stay away from married men, shame on you.
but since you didn't come for a lecture, i will try to help. You just need to flat out tell him what you just said in your ? that simple.
Dating a married man! Shame on you! Try telling him you want to call it off and he should make more of an effort to fix his marriage. Of course there is no passion, you're in the way!
I agree with you that most of them feel unappreciated by their wives. But, they are already married n some would'nt want to break up with their wives because of the scandal and the pain it would cause the children.
I'm not supporting your dating a married man but they also have a right to be happy. I'd advise you to define your relationship with him like you said.
Pay no attention to those that are making you feel bad cos you are dating a married man, they could find themselves in your shoes too.
Well, tell him what you want he sould be able to listen.
All the best
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